The straightforward, but in depth ABCDEF structure
It truly is using this type of, primary confusion in head that we generated the holistic construction in the ABCs of Attraction. Which can be a straightforward, progressive timeline that applies each to individual interactions, as well as the overall frame of a connection and it really is broken down into 6 phases: An as a result of F (the simple, but in depth ABCDEF framework).
Within this series of articles or blog posts, I’ll describe these phases as well as the major things of each, detailing them all and what pieces make up each and every.
The 2nd of such phases is B: Be Inside the Moment, Banter & Buying Temperature.
Once you’ve gotten past the initial opener (A Phase), you are in-set using a girl. The rest of the world knows this as ‘Having a conversation’. With so many routine-based methodologies and a wealth of things to say on PUA forums across the world, we sometimes forget that we are merely having a conversation (albeit, a purposeful conversation).
And that is why it’s so important to make a conscious effort to pay attention to what is going on inside the interaction, but most importantly to HAVE FUN WITH HER!
The first component of B Phase is Be Inside the Minute.

This can be a perfect example of the Inner Strength that separates the men from the boys. Because we are a holistic-method company, we don’t rely on particular tactics or routines. We encourage each and every person to uncover his possess niche and to use his strengths to his advantage.

Be Animated. Be Expressive. BE REAL!!!
The idea is usually to bring together all the various features of subcommunication that positively express your personality in a high impact, emotional manner. In other words:
Be ANIMATED!
Be EXPRESSIVE!
Be REAL!
The best way to do this would be to Be While in the Instant. Don’t focus on particular lines or games; take a step back and realize how much you’re enjoying the interaction. It’s dramatic effect on your perspective will directly effect your confidence and attitude and immediately become apparent to your target, who will see your immersion and awareness as a very spontaneous and fun personality trait!
Be someone that always GIVES value! Or, like Gareth Jones likes to say, “Be a Fun MAKER! Not a Fun TAKER!”
The 2nd component of B Phase is Banter.

Bantering makes flirting fun, easy, and effortless!
So often, women will say that a good conversationalist is extremely attractive to them because it shows a quick wit, perspective, as well as ability to represent ones-self confidently. We stress this kind of Verbal Attraction (a single from the three, key components on the B Phase) in order to stimulate the woman’s intellect.
A man that can converse has an instant leg up. To develop this skill on your individual, all you have to do is go out and talk! Talk to everyone you meet at the grocery store, at the restaurant and, especially, at the bar! Practice makes perfect and, from the case of Bantering, practice makes productivity!
A point that guys tend to forget is that people go out to clubs or bars to have fun and, as we teach, there are two types of people: fun takers and fun makers! Provide the fun that the girl came to find at the bar and develop strong Verbal Attraction like:
Cocky/Funny quips (“This is the worst first date ever!”)
Funny questions (“So, what do you do when you’re not picking up guys?”)
Routines (“French Pillsbury Dough Boy”)
Silly games (Murder, Marry, Shag)
Etc
For those guys who’s English is not your first language and find it hard to have that comic timing and mastery of verbal humor, concentrate on crafting quick, short hilarious stories rather than rapid fire repartee. Also concentrate on the unspoken forms of humor and having fun (ie dancing, high fives, etc) like BT Spikes.
The third component of B Phase is Buying Temperature.

Asian Playboy’s Caveman Maneuver: BT Spike to make her laugh and possess fun
A woman’s BT is her general attraction to you and is increased by specific maneuvers called BT Spikes. These fun, witty, silly, and often very amusing physical (and sometimes verbal) tactics are what makes her enjoy herself and attach that feeling to the giver of fun (you!).
It truly is an example of Physical Confidence in both equally your body and her’s as you affect her emotionally in a positive, fun manner. For example:
Dancing
“Flex For Me”
PUA Spin
APB’s Caveman Maneuver
Etc
By inducing a “Buying Temperature” state, you’re putting her in an EMOTIONAL RECEPTIVE mood. In other words, she LIKES you and FEELS GOOD about you.
That is why, for example, we don’t need to do the False Time Constraint (FTC), and that is designed to lower her guard and convince her to not be suspicious of you and why you came up to her. These logical gambits are attempting to “trick” her brain otherwise.
We here at the ABCs of Attraction don’t believe in tricking or manipulating a girl NOR do we believe in putting in extra unnecessary work that “tries hard” to get her to stay with us.
When you “pump up her Buying Temperature (BT)”, she will already be in a good mood and WILL NOT CARE why you came up to her. In fact, by following the ABCDEF framework, she will want you to STAY! And not because of any routine you used to allay her skepticism, but because SHE ENJOYS YOUR PRESENCE!
Remember that Buying Temperature is transferable (meaning any guy can force you out of your set and take more than her heightened emotional state) and it really is short-lived, so once you’ve gotten her emotional by spiking her BT, you’ll want to proceed straight to the C Phase (Compliance, Comfort & Connect), the subject of our next article!

JT Tran is the leading dating and lifestyle coach for Asian men on Buying Temperature using PUA routines. His company the ABCs of Attraction has been featured on NBC, ABC, and on the front pages of New York Magazine, AsianWeek, and LA Weekly. He leads a wide variety of PUA bootcamps, training seminars, and confidence workshops across the nation and internationally.