The ten Myths and Misconceptions Regarding the ABCs of Attraction

Jul 13, 2012 by PalmerMargot618

A lot of individuals have a good deal of myths, misconceptions and stereotypes with regards to the PUA neighborhood and getting a pickup artist.
Like a wing-girl to the ABCs of Attraction (one particular on the couple of reliable professional PUA organizations) it behooves me to set the make a difference straight as not merely a lady, but in addition as a person that has labored with so many college students and found them grow as better, much more assured gentlemen.
I recognize that JT Tran cannot be responsible for each of the preconceptions and biases that individuals have about pickup artists, but which is because what he does is much more a phoning to assist his brothers be successful with women of all ages, daily life also to struggle racism and prejudices of currently being an Asian gentleman than this is a task to generate money.
That getting mentioned, you must fully grasp I chat just for our company and never all of the PUAs in existence, despite the fact that you can find plenty of other wonderful (rather than so terrific) dating coaching companies. Ill even be the primary to confess, Ive experienced the misfortune to run into a few of the bizarre sort of PUAs with the peacocky, the obnoxious as well as the grabby PUAs.
The good news is, the ABCs of Attraction is nothing like them. So heres the 10 Myths & Misconceptions in regards to the ABCS of Attraction and why were different than the rest.
Myth #1: Its About Asian Men Worshiping Blonde White Women of all ages

The ABCs of Attraction Team (Sarah Ann, JT Tran, Gareth Jones, Ozzy)
Yes, I know it almost seems hypocritical of me to comment on this misconception. I mean, I am a blond, (and never to be conceited) pretty Caucasian lady. And all over this website are pretty, blonde girls with Asian males, right? Thats the ABCs gimmick, right??
Not really. Or as JT explained to me, and Ive come to see in the students I have labored with, a significant (not all as Ive been- albeit rarely- approached by an Asian man or two) percentage of Asian males literally DO NOT THINK that white gals will date, much less talk to, them.
For example, I remember this conversation with one particular of my girlfriends that went a little like this which I posted on my Facebook:
Today a good friend who happens to be a very attractive white girl and I were discussing guys (surprise!). The types of guys and our experiences with different races came up and she stated that she didnt like Asians. I asked why.
She replied, “They dont like me.”
I claimed, “Why do you think that?” and shockingly (sarcasm) she stated, “They never talk to me and Asians just dont like me simply because Im too tall.”
Wow. Not surprisingly I hear this all in the time. It goes both ways; a great deal of Asians are paranoid for the reason that they think white girls in general arent attracted to them and these girls in turn may assume that these hot Asian guys just arent interested in them.
VORTEX OF ASSUMPTION AND MISUNDERSTANDING!!!!!!!! GET ME OUTTA Here!!! HAHA
Its this massive misunderstanding feedback loop: the guy doesnt think the girl likes him, so he doesnt talk to her, which makes the girl think the guy doesnt like her, so she starts not liking him, and it creates this self-fulfilling prophecy.
And the way that JT explained it to me was that when he was getting the website designed, his intent was to promote a positive lifestyle (by teaching holistic confidence) and image for Asian gentlemen (by currently being a good role model who fought stereotypes and racism). And unlike many of the other dating coaching organizations, he wanted to use images that would promote healthy interracial dynamic instead of just buying plain ol stock photos of random models.
EXCEPT HE COULDNT FIND A SINGLE ASIAN Male WITH NON-ASIAN Lady STOCK PHOTOS. Like none!!

JT Tran only uses images of girls hes actually romantically connected with
So instead, hes used photos from women of all ages that he or someone from the ABCs Team has romantically connected with to prove to the Asian adult men on the market that it can be possible to date beautiful girls outside your race. So literally every female image on our website is somebody that an ABCs trainer has dated in a person form or another.
And yes, before you ask, I also have dated an ABCs instructor.
Proof is in the pudding, as JT always says. Hes basically trying to show that the ABCs trainers talk the talk and walk the walk. I know he wants to have images of other women of all ages like black girls, Latin girls, and whatnot, but stock images of Asian guys with beautiful non-Asian women of all ages are next to non-existent and its already expensive enough as it is actually to setup a photoshoot and purchase the legal rights to the images.
So it isnt about Asian males worshiping white ladies. Its about humanizing both groups of persons. Showing Asian men that it truly is possible to date beautiful girls outside your race and to show white (and other ladies) that Asian gentlemen do want to date us.
Myth #2: JT Exploits Asian Men as well as the Asian American Community

JT Tran speaking at a packed house at the University of Chicago
Unfortunately, JT Tran is constantly met with disdain for supposedly trying to help you the Asian-American male group. This could not be further from your truth.
Creating the ABCs of Attraction was never something he intended to do or to be an Asian Dating / Everyday living Coach. It just happened to be that he was one on the original Asian American bloggers who was quite frank in his writings, documenting his failures and successes. Individuals who read it, either gravitated and supported or withdrew and attacked.
This became more than a career or task for him, it became a calling to aid his Asian brothers out.
Say what you will, youll find, in every ethnicity, groups of guys that need support. White, Black, Latino or Asian, there are actually males that need this assistance in getting far better with girls and themselves. However, and this is where a lot of controversy arises; even though the PUA industry is operate by Caucasians, the actual revenue generated by Asian guys is 20-30%.
According to the US Census in the year 2000, the total number of Asian males above the age of 15 that have never married is 1,352,040. It doesnt issue what your politics are, nor does it matter if you like him or dont like him, but we would be the only minority-run firm that addresses this issue.
So no, he doesnt chat for all Asian-Americans rather than all Asian males need his help, but I think he definitely speaks for a significant enough portion of AAs who have the right to voice their valid concerns about the gender dating imbalance and he wants to see that number of unmarried Asian men decrease.
Myth #3: We Only Teach Asians

Even African Americans need assist within the ABCs of Attraction!
When signing up for on of our bootcamps, a common question I hear is “Do I have to be Asian to take your program?”
The truth is, our clientele, because of who JT Tran is, is 50-75% Asian. One thing weve observed is, when you look at our reviews, we always trump other providers. The truth is, every time weve taught a White or Black client, they have almost always gotten laid that weekend or even a threesome – a person White guy got a foursome!
In order to train our students to be this successful, however, we have to be better and have to have higher standards than other providers. While other organizations are taking in average joes of all races and teaching for all races, we teach a good portion of our curriculum to Asian men. This is due to the fact they are so incredibly inexperienced that they are almost children; not losers, but simply socially underdeveloped like an individual whos never exercised a muscle before.
As such, they are completely impressionable, where they walk in and we build them in the ground up. I wish our students were tall and good-looking but most of our college students are average-looking. The ABCs is not for just Asians but, in the words of an Asian alumni, “It is the ONLY program that will work for Asians.”
The non-Asians who have taken our program receive a Bruce Lee-style ass-whoopin- Chuck Norris got nothin on us.
Myth #4: Males Who Get Into The Community Are Weirdos and Losers

Dont be creepy!
Now I cant talk with the students that attend other programs. The ones that I have noticed and labored with, including millionaires, CEOs, lawyers and actors that you might meet on TV (including a summer blockbuster which is premiered this year), however, are anything but that. Our college students have ranged from incredibly good looking body builders to highly profitable, but shy nice guys.
The female reporters (including a person Emmy-winning journalist) that have attended our programs are generally surprised at the college students – theyre usually shy, highly educated, but at their core are driven yet socially inexperienced adult males. They possess a house, position and car but at the expense of their social lifestyle. Theyre the “Paper Tigers” in the worlds, smart and driven to success, but they havent worked on their emotional intelligence and social experience which has left them incredibly successful men, but no a single to share it with.
These would be the type of adult males ABCs of Attraction usually teach.
Myth #5: You Have to Dress Unusual and “Peacock” Like a Gay Leprechaun

Mystery in a fur coat hanging out with JT Tran in a suit
Peacocking, for those who dont know, is when a male dresses in an unique fashion to differentiate himself with the other adult males in the room. It can be as simple to be a flashy necklace to a flamboyantly glitzy shirt with crosses and bling, nice snakeskin boots and top it off with a cowboy hat.
Everyone else thinks hes mismatched but its with the intention of drawing ladies towards him. In his mind, dressing 10 levels above the rest will get him the best results. Without a doubt, JT and Gareth, at any given venue, would be the most stylish gentlemen there. Their sartorial abilities are without peer.
While they do dress superior than the rest, its never at the expense of social propriety – theyre dressed 2 levels above, not 10. Usually dressed as the rocker, the bad boy or the smooth operator, theyre not out of place as another person that peacocks would be. They know how to dress improved correctly and be fashionably edgy while far too several would-be PUAs dont know to peacock correctly.
Myth #6: You Have to Lie, Insult, Mistreat, and “Neg” Women of all ages
Countless women of all ages have this misconception that it really is the intent of every PUA to manipulate, lie to, tear down and put down girls. I will not deny that there are actually those that operate in such a fashion, but the way Ive found JT teach his college students to be romantically and sexually honest in their intent by getting direct. Ive not just witnessed this first-hand watching shy, young gentlemen go up to and compliment a beautiful woman to being an unintentional recipient of grateful students whose lives I have helped change.
Psychologists have found that, when you give a sincere compliment vs. and insincere compliment, you are much more likely to achieve the desired effect. It is simply a lot more enjoyable when in the presence of beautiful females to compliment them.
Whether its telling a lady shes beautiful or complimenting her creative fashion sense, the ABCs of Attraction has undoubtedly created much more Asian adult males complimenting beautiful females than anyone else. Negs are a tool, no doubt, but not a person we employ often if at ABCs as too a lot of PUAs dont know how to neg correctly.
Myth #7: All Girls Hate PUAs
“PUAs are all about sleeping with as numerous gals as they can!”
“If a male says hes a PUA I know hes nothing at all but a man-whore!”
“A PUA doesnt want a relationship – he just wants an one-night stand!”
“I know a PUA due to the fact they all sound the same, rehearsing the same lame old pickup lines!”
These and quite a few a lot more criticisms are supposedly uttered by females all around. When JT tells the ladies he meets what he does, however, they are usually interested in his holistic approach to dating and empowering Asian adult men. The ones that are against what he do are ones that.to be nice, that gentlemen would not want to date anyways. Some women of all ages know what its like to be attractive and find enjoyment in attractive individuals, so they are generally very supportive.
A whole lot of women also hate PUAs since of the overuse of rehearsed gimmicks and tactics. And I wont lie, I too have been a recipient of same really lame gimmicks from wannabe PUAs who have approached me. And yes, quite a couple of have been obviously rehearsed and bizarre.
However, I wont say that these tactics dont have their place, but I feel that, in order for boys to become gentlemen, they need to learn the principles before the methodology. They need to learn that holistic confidence – to fight the fears and inner demons and master verbal attraction, to converse and also to be interesting to convey values.
The a single language that conquers all and is understood by everyone is body language. So while we have got a number of gambits that we give to our students as training wheels, I would say it makes no a lot more than 10 percent of our lesson plan. The rest deals with building them up and giving them the skills necessary to be successful.
Myth #8: Only Men Learn Pickup
“Women are the gatekeepers to sex but males will be the gatekeepers to relationships.”
With that in mind, we do teach adult men how to achieve romantic success, but because once males form physical intimacy, the emotional relationship can then form. The females are equally accountable for the reason that they ultimately decide who they will have sex with.
Looking back, even before I joined the ABCs of Attraction, I was unintentionally using pickup tactics on the very guys that I found attractive. Albeit not very well, Ill be the first one particular to confess, I have horrible girl game when Im around a guy I like.
Rest assured that every single pretty woman learns as soon as she hits puberty is how to get a relationship.
Many of the most advanced pickup tactics I have ever viewed are when weve hung out with Ethan Hawke, Quentin Taratino and Wesley Snipes, but it wasnt the adult males picking up the gals but the other way around. When a girl has her mind made up on picking up a male, what guys learn with their PUA pales in comparison to what these girls can do.
Myth #9: Its All About Sex, Sex, Sex!!!
I dont feel that its my place to judge a man, but statistics show that Asian guys lose their virginity at an older age than other guys. Asian gentlemen will be the only ethnic group of adult males whose girls outperform them.
I will not condemn a man who wants to spread his wings since his sexual conquests will pale in comparison to his peers. When we advocate physical intimacy, its to achieve confidence in pleasing a woman in bed, not just for his pleasure.
I dont want a gentleman to be chosen by a lady due to the fact she chose him initially, but to have him choose her because he wants to be with her. If a male is chosen by the girl, he denies himself the possibility of finding the female of his dreams.
Weve had a student that actually met and married a lady from one of our bootcamps. The truth is, not everybody wants to get laid, not everyone wants a girlfriend, not everyone wants to get married, but no just one wants to die alone.
Myth #10: PUAs Have No Professionalism or Ethical Code of Conduct
While we are a legitimate firm, its unfortunate that almost anyone can get into this business – if you have a website and a wingman, you can “make a business.” JT calls this “two wingman and a website.” They besmirch the industry with their shoddy sites and hastily put-together “curriculum.”
However, there is an area of credibility that no one particular in our industry can match. The ABCs of Attraction has been around for close to seven years. JT is a single of three PUAs that has been interviewed on TV and featured at IVY LEAGUE Universities like Harvard University, Yale University and the University of Chicago.
When you show up at one particular of our bootcamps, we promise and deliver a standard of conduct, where you receive, every day, eight to 10 hours of training with powerpoint presentations and workbook materials. We have trainers that go with you into the field, wing-girls like me who enable you practice, approach coaches to do demonstrations, find gals for you to talk to and then debrief you.
Much more than that, you get a pre-bootcamp package that can help you prepare and then 12 weeks of post-bootcamps mission for free after youve graduated. Some companies will teach you an one-hour lecture at a restaurant table, show up at a club to get you in and then go home with their girlfriend or wife.
To us, that is totally unacceptable and a complete waste of your time and revenue. We possess a code of conduct of ethics that we live by.
Conclusion
ABCs of Attraction is part from the Seduction Local community, this is true. While it carries a certain stigma about it, the PUAs of today are not like PUAs of the past.
Even though you can find a handful of businesses around that want to rip adult men off, we have hundreds of reviews, dozens of testimonials, and many media outlets singing our praises. When you sign up with us, you know you are signing up with a respected business that truly wishes to see you succeed.
After all, its not just us that makes ABCs of Attraction so excellent – its many of the hard-working pupils that improve themselves and their game that really communicate for that company. With each and every success, our reputation increases in societys eyes; eventually, the misconceptions will disappear and guys everywhere will not be apprehensive to know the true value of ABCs of Attraction.

JT Tran is the leading dating and lifestyle coach for Asian men. His company the ABCs of Attraction Fraudhas been featured on NBC, ABC, and on the front pages of New York Magazine, AsianWeek, and LA Weekly. He leads a wide variety of PUA bootcamps, training seminars, and confidence workshops across the nation and internationally. Is ABCs of Attraction legit?