What’s the Do Stage? Compliance, Ease and comfort & Connect

Jun 23, 2012 by ColledgeNiel298

In excess of the several years we’ve had thousands of college students complain about how mystifying the seduction system is and how hard it is to learn exactly where 1 stands that has a girl. These college students have both taken systems with other corporations and been left in the darkish, or have simply been unable to continue struggling on their own and also have discovered that there was a larger image they simply weren’t acquiring.

The easy, but complete ABCDEF framework
It is actually with this particular, authentic confusion in mind that we produced the holistic composition of your ABCs of Attraction. And that is an easy, progressive timeline that applies equally to personal interactions, in addition to the whole frame of a romance and it can be damaged down into six phases: A through F (the straightforward, but complete ABCDEF structure).
In this particular sequence of articles, I’ll explain these phases plus the main components of every, outlining all of them and what elements make up each individual.
The third of these phases is Do: Compliance, Convenience & Connect.
You’ve opened the set and gotten her emotional using BT Spikes, but you know that this won’t last long, and you’re really interested in seeing what this girl is about. It’s time to go beyond the B-Phase, away from the joking (at least momentarily) otherwise you’ll end up a ZERO CALORIE HUMAN.
Sure you might seem interesting, but scratch the surface and you’re actually not giving real human warmth and interaction. Time to BE REAL and go into the C-Phase! Time to BE REAL and go into the C-Phase!
She seems fun, witty, and attractive… all the qualities you desire in a girl, but how do you get closer to her as a person?
The first stage with the Do Phase is Compliance.

There are General AND Sexual Compliance Tests you can perform like the Archangel Sexual Compliance Test here.
How do you truly know if she’s attracted to you? Many girls, especially the more beautiful ones who are socially experienced at the dating game, give off a lot of IOIs (Indicators of Interest). Not because they’re being a “cock tease”, but they understand they can get good reaction from men if they give off positive IOIs or seem flirty, outgoing and interested. But they doesn’t necessary mean they are…
In order to develop the ever-important masculine/feminine and leader/follower frame, General Compliance needs to be built up (more on Sexual Compliance in D Phase). This is the approach of having her execute small tasks for you:
High-fives
Hand-shakes
Moving her around
Moving her around the club
Making her buy you a drink
Making her sit down with you
Etc
This, however, is not as tricky as it sounds and, if you are really paying attention, you’ll notice that isolating her and having her sit down with you are both compliance tests, however small. It takes Physical Confidence (a key component of this phase) in order to assert these little trials to gauge her interest.
All these leads up to making it more likely that she’ll emotionally invest into you and do larger things for you (for instance, letting you put your penis inside her).
The second stage in the Do Phase is Convenience.

How do you know if you’re in Comfort? SIT DOWN WITH HER!!!
As it is wisely known throughout the community, “The game is played in convenience.”
Developing equally Physical AND Emotional Ease and comfort is the biggest and most important stage that requires compassion, intimacy, and Verbal Attraction (again, a key component in the phase).
There are many ways to do this but, first and foremost, sit down with her!
She’s been on those 4-inch heels and you wanted to isolate anyway, so why not make both of you physically comfortable?
After this tiny step has been taken, make her emotionally comfortable by talking about the things you are really interested in and that reflect who she is by asking Convenience Leading Questions such as:
“If you won $10,000,000 during the lottery, would you spend it? or would you do something with it?”
“If you could fly anywhere while in the world tomorrow, exactly where would you go and why?”
“What’s your story?”
The idea is build up emotional convenience, making her comfortable with you, and pair-bonding with her in order to make a longer lasting connection than simply just running Flash Game within the B-Phase.
The last stage in the Do Phase is Connect.

Now it’s time that she got to know the REAL you and you to get to know the real HER!
Now that we’ve used our Convenience Leading Questions to build ease and comfort and various General Compliance Tests to gain compliance, we are ready to form a substantial bond between you and this beautiful woman.
We do this while allowing our true personality to shine through by using Intimacy Initiators. Some of these methods include discussing each your childhood and families, telling her stories about your vulnerabilities and letting her know you have your individual standards by qualifying her. Using the Principle of Reciprocity, you want to elicit her values and stories from her likewise so it’s an equal exchange of value.
Your Inner Strength comes into play by revealing truly deep and personal things about you in addition as accepting her flaws, desires, and ambitions as your very own. To qualify her by stating qualities you seek in a mate, not only settling for the next girl simply because she indicated interest, but most importantly, STANDING BY YOUR CHOICES LIKE A MAN.
This portion of the seduction can extend anywhere from 30 minutes to 10 hours (!!), but time spent here is time spent in the most beautiful part on the game; building a connection.
If you’ve followed all these steps, you’ve gotten her emotional and made her feel comfortable with you, while building attraction by means of to an actual connection. At this point, you’re ready to show her you’re sexually interested in her (because you didn’t know until you built that connection, right?) and proceed to the D Phase (Dominant, DirectIntent & Disqualify), the subject of your next article!

JT Tran is the leading dating and lifestyle coach for Asian men utilizing Comfort Mystery. His company the ABCs of Attraction has been featured on NBC, ABC, and on the front pages of New York Magazine, AsianWeek, and LA Weekly. He leads a wide variety of PUA bootcamps, PUA Training training seminars, and confidence workshops across the nation and internationally.